If we’re being honest, weddings have gotten a little out of hand.

There’s a lot of noise out there – from TikTok trends to Aunt Susan’s opinions to Instagram-perfect timelines that leave zero room for actual joy. So here it is: wedding advice I’d give if I wasn’t worried about hurting your feelings (but let’s be real – you probably need to hear it).

Let’s clear the fluff and get back to what matters.

1. It’s not your job to entertain your guests all day.

You are not a cruise director. Your guests are grown adults – they’ll survive an hour without being “hosted” while you take photos or have a private dinner. The whole “keep guests constantly entertained” pressure is exhausting. You should be the one soaking in the day – not stressing about whether everyone else is having fun every second. They are there to celebrate your love and it’s a privilege for them to have been invited into such an important moment in your life.

2. Stop inviting people who wouldn’t even notice if you moved across the country.

You don’t need to fill your guest list with people who follow your life through your mom’s Facebook. If they wouldn’t text you a happy birthday or show up for you on a random Tuesday, they don’t need to be there on your most important Saturday.

3. The “aesthetic” doesn’t matter as much as the experience.

Yes, the film photos are dreamy. Yes, your color palette matters. But not if you’re miserable trying to chase a Pinterest board that doesn’t even feel like you. Ditch the idea that every single element has to be on brand. A beautiful wedding is one that feels real – not one that follows a color story.

4. You don’t need a champagne tower. Or a content creator. Or five outfit changes.

Unless it genuinely lights you up, skip the trendy stuff. Weddings are not for Instagram. They are not performance art. If you want it, amazing. If you’re doing it because you think you should or because your favorite influencer did it, then please save your sanity (and your money).

5. If your timeline has no breathing room, your memories will feel rushed.

You need time to exist in your wedding. Build in padding. Create space to sit with your emotions. Cry in the mirror. Take your shoes off. If you’re booked to the minute from 7am to midnight, all you’ll remember is how tired you felt.

6. You’re allowed to skip traditions that don’t mean anything to you.

Don’t want to toss your bouquet? Don’t. Don’t want a cake cutting? Cool. Want to walk yourself down the aisle? Do it. Want to have a taco truck instead of filet mignon? Absolutely yes. The rules are made up. Do what makes sense for you.

7. People will judge you no matter what – so you might as well do what you want.

Too small. Too big. Too expensive. Too “DIY.” Someone’s going to have something to say either way. You do not owe anyone an explanation. This is your one shot to create a day that feels like you – not something that pleases everyone else.

My final thought on it all.

You don’t get this day back. Make it count – not for likes or comments, not for trends or tradition, but for you. The future version of you will look back and be so damn glad you did.

And if you’re looking for a photographer who’s not just going to show up and take pretty pictures, but actually support you in making this day feel real and yours – I’m in.
Let’s make your wedding feel like you.

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